Major vent
- brother emailed me from out of town late yesterday and said mom gets discharged on march 11th
- he found out when he talked to her yesterday
- news to me
- lengthy conversation with gary last night about all of it
- had to calm myself since i thought we had an additional week--i was thinking she'd be out the 17th or so
- it's just a week early, but march will be BUSY
- that's likely the week we'll reschedule daisy's surgery
- don't like surprises like this, especially out of the blue
- mom called today to ask for a friend's phone number
- this particular friend of hers (honestly, an annoying person in my opinion....read: controlling type), said she wanted to be available to take mom home when she gets out
- huh?
- mom tells me on the phone she wants this friend's number because she has something to tell her
- mom's gentleman friend saw mom today and said she needed to call her friend and share (the big mystery)
- my mother never lets on to me that she gets out on march 11th, sounding while she talked like a child who's keeping a secret---the very same tone---parents, you know the way they sound
- the thing is---she doesn't know my brother told me
- AND, gary still wants mom here
- re-do the dining room for her?
- actually, last night this sounded slightly sane to me--today, not so much
- friends/acquaintances who've done this advise against it
- gary wants her to come here directly from rehab
- i want her to go to her house first, esp. since she's not been home since early november
- oh, and also, this brother initially told me on the phone this week that his wife/daughter will come early to get mom's house ready for her---not sure what that means, but okay
- then he'd be here when we go to joseph's graduation
- now he's backpedaled, and they'll all just be here for graduation week
- no help in moving her cable, have exterminator in, blah-blah-blah
- must talk to oldest brother, and discuss options---none good
- it's here and we've got to deal with it, no matter
- told gary having her in rehab has been sort of like the honeymoon period---now the real marriage takes place
- trying to make it a blessing in my heart, but all i can see is work---and a LOT of it
- just ate a whole pint of ben & jerry's chocolate fudge brownie ice cream---apparently that's my coping strategy--carefully now, or i'll end up being huge!
