Something to remember for future weddings, be it for a son or daughter: Have someone in charge, whether a paid person, or preferably, an interested friend/family member. This wedding is all over the place with folks delivering, setting up (supposedly) and making it all come together. A bit messy. And nobody seems to know how to tell time.
And we still don't know who's cutting the cake. In my day, you asked a special friend ahead of time to have that honor, and an honor it is.
One son, who's the best man, is at the wedding chapel/reception hall now waiting for folks to bring things. He's not been designated as the in-charge person, but he's pretty tidy in his head, so it works. And I told him on the phone just now, as the best man, he's by default the go-to guy. He should have been given permission ages ago.
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The rehearsal went well last night, and forgive me, but a preacher who doesn't know the wedding couple and has only met them briefly before, well, it's awkward. He's got the personality of a game show host. When they went through the routine of who stands where and when to walk the aisle, and so forth, he'd say something to the effect that when it was done correctly, "You win. Way-to-go. Collect your prize when you leave the building." (clap groom on the back---insert laughter)
Really?
In these settings the sacrament of Holy Matrimony gets lessened to one more show. It's not Holy, and with them living together for months before they secretly married in January at the Court House---there's nothing to look forward to. It's all been done. Sort of sad in that.
Just telling it like it is.
But the rehearsal dinner went by so smoothly. The house where we held it was beautiful, there was plenty of food---and there were only about 25 folks, so it was easy. Met more of the bride's family, and everyone was sweet. Couldn't have been better. Bathing situations in prayer is always the answer. It flowed.
Looking forward to tonight. Our responsibilities are, pretty much, over so we can chill. Sorry to sound cynical, but this couple isn't allowing the Lord to be in charge of their relationship, so the heart isn't in it. It's all surface. Maybe having a game show host as the one who performs the service is appropriate. It'd be nice to be all chipper and say it's all wonderful and we're so thrilled. That'd be false enthusiasm, though.
I will enjoy getting dressed up, and being with my boys one more night. That's a definite plus.
But God ordained marriage. Seems to me He should be invited.
